Change Is Good

So… when do you move on? My answer: When you no longer feel joy.

This is not exactly why I am not working on my startup anymore, but maybe it had something to do with it. Isn’t it devastating when you’ve devoted months to something, and one morning you wake up, realizing this is the day you stop worrying about that project? What do you do on that day?

First of all, here’s what you shouldn’t do:

  • obsess over why it all happened


  • talk to people about it, analyzing your conversations


  • emailing people who have offered you a job before in panic


  • thinking it might have been a mistake

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  • trying to fill your day with more and more work, to forget


  • feeling ashamed to tell people it happened


  • become paralyzed with the choices for what comes next


I went through almost all of the above stages, in one day. Can you imagine?

Truth is, what I should have done right away – and am trying to do now – is be grateful I was a part of this project and look forward to whatever comes next. Because I know a lot is coming and maybe this was the Universe’s way of giving me a hint that I was planning too many things again.

You know what happens with plans, right? – Life happens.

So here I am, moving on.

I’m moving on from Amazemeet – unfortunately, a few weeks before its launch. To be fair, neither I nor my ex co-founder planned it, it just happened – as most things do, and we split on the crossroads.

There is both fear and excitement when something ends because that means something else is about to begin. 

And so the choice is yours – and mine – do you get panicked and scared, and do something stupid (like the times I’ve tried to go backwards out of fear and self-doubt) or do you look forward with a spark in your eyes?

Tomorrow’s a new day and it brings new things, and change is a good sign. Change means you’re growing and you’re learning. It happens when it’s time for a new adventure – whether you planned it or not. And to those of you who refuse to change, the whole thing eventually blows up. Trust me.

Is this a funeral or…

Is this a celebration? Of course it’s a celebration.


And it doesn’t mean I’ll never think about Amazemeet again – in fact, I am still a user and a fan, and I encourage you to try it.

I am just glad there is no regret. Because sometimes things happen, and you feel gripped by the things you said and did, but normally those are the things you ignored in your gut were the wrong things to say and do.

Regret is something that sneaks up on you when you act out of fear. So when you feel afraid, talk to someone. Just don’t go backwards. Instead, look forward to the next adventure and pray there will be many crossroads in your life because that is the sign of a long, beautiful, and rich life.

Signing off now. My next adventure is knocking.

P.S. A big THANK YOU to everyone who came to me and offered guidance, assistance, or just a caring shoulder. You really made all the difference. ❤

9 thoughts on “Change Is Good

  1. I admire the calmness that this post reflects! At the end of the day it’s the journey that counts and the journey should be enjoyable even if it’s hard. If it doesn’t make you happy then, as you said, it’s time to move on. The best is yet to come my friend 🙂


    • Thanks, Ioanna! Years ago, when something really shocking happened to me, and it was the first time things were really tough, I developed my mantra: I’m OK as long as I get up. So really, everything’s going to be all right as long as you can see yourself getting up, dusting off, and keep moving.

      In fact, most of the time it’s better than OK. It’s amazing. 🙂


      • It’s shocking how we need something tough to put us in perspective. I have a similar experience that always reminds me of the things that really matter. So yes, these kind of decision problems may be hard but are only there to remind you that you’re amazing! 🙂

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  2. This is great Violeta. So much of entrepreneurship / startups is about being willing to take risks and grow, it truly is an emotionally and intellectually accelerated path to be on. For me the question is often “is this who I really am / does it address some core part of who I want to be?” …when the answer becomes no, then it’s ok and feels like a victory to move on.


    • Right! It’s like those kinds of questions, like “Would you want your signature on this” or “Does this fit the kind of person I am?” Totally know what you mean. In my case, quitting Amazemeet wasn’t about this, but maybe in time it could have been. It was fun nevertheless and we should be grateful for these learning opportunities. Cheers, Joe. 🙂


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